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Month: April 2025

“It’s a Feature, Not a Bug”

Posted on by Conner Romesco

Imma tackle that Elephant in the room – the overwhelming creature that ‘Everyone’ is trying to ignore. This Elephant has a Name:

“The Why.”

It’s every Elephant-in-the-Room’s name. Once I know the Name of this specific Elephant? He’s not so scary to Me. So after dealing with a couple Elephants already, TECH knows to immediately set to work – when dealing with a New Elephant – to uncover the Pony in the pile of sh#t. [N: the Pony = The Why]

If You’ve been following Me through a few of My Stories, DR? You are already adding data to Your Own mental File labeled “Conner.” So far? Maybe these tales resonated strongly for You… or maybe? Your TECH is still “acquiring data” because You don’t know what to make of Me,  yet. [N: either result is Right/Allowed/Correct]

But here’s a little more of The Why I want You “to know.”

  1. I’m changing all the names, to “protect the innocent.” This isn’t Historical documents, or tax forms, or receipts. This is Storytelling – and the plot of the Story is usually a Lesson [N: AKA The Money Shot] and not “Who IRL did/said X.” The IRL details are irrelevant, IMO.
  • I’m using Hypothetical Scenarios that are intended to resonate with the greatest majority of Conceptual Folks. This means I will use a HS of “frying up bacon for breakfast” versus “explaining how to do a convoluted Calculus problem,” because My guess is more Folks “out there” can identify AKA “relate to” bacon versus Calculus.
  • I’m trying to get Your SB “on My side,” DR.

I am trying to do a bunch of things at once; akin to a Clown at the Circus, juggling a bunch of balls in the air for Your – the Audience’s – entertainment. I want Your attention, and I will do “amazing & never-before-seen things” to get it.

“There’s a Method to My Madness.” This saying applies here.

How do You Trust Me, DR? Well, here’s some of the criteria I use when considering whether to trust any Other Person:

  1. “What’s in it for Them?” Sure, I can only see the top of that iceberg, but usually if I don’t see any velociraptors standing on the top of the ice, I assume there are no velociraptors hanging on to the bottom, ‘under the water line.’ [N: IRL mutual Experience data gathered with You ‘tells’ Me if I can continue to Trust You or not]
  • “Is Their Actions consistent with Their Words?” This is easy to “Prove” in that One’s external behavior Never Lies.
  • I recognize that at any moment the data ‘can change.’ [N: Historical data doesn’t change – what happened already is in the past. What I mean when I say “can change” means newly acquired data ‘is variant to’ the previously acquired data in the Files]

This third one is KEY. Sh#t happens, amiright? I acquire New data about Everything – about “stuff” and about “Other People I’m Connected with” on a daily basis. And I’ve trained TECH to Not suppress/ignore any of this data… but – in the interest of “establishing Equilibrium” – I also make sure TECH doesn’t try and suppress PASSION. PASSION is “My gut,” after all.

I Trust PASSION most of all.

“How Did I Not Know That?!?”

Posted on by Conner Romesco

I’m a South Korean drama Superfan. It all started with Squid Game – I watched it when it first aired, in English dub, and was completely mesmerized by the visuals of the Story.

I watched it three more times after that first time – still in English dub – and really ‘dug in’ to each of the Characters’ motivations: “Why did that Guy do that thing? What was that Lady thinking, when She did that?” The development of the Characters’ interpersonal relationships with Each Other is PASSION’s favorite part.

Then: I watched Squid Game… the fifth time… in the original Korean.

*mental grenade explodes*

And the rest is History. I have a G/F who We watch SK drama concurrently – sometimes a different show at a time, sometimes the same show and spreading out the episodes so We can discuss – it’s like a Current Day Book Club. Except on TV. And in Korean instead of English.

The show I am watching right now involves one of My favorite subjects: Dying.

The Concept of Dying holds endless fascination for Me. You want it to be because “I’m growing older, physically” DR, but that’s not really accurate. I have pondered Conceptual Dying since I was 9 years old, approximately. [N: I think it’s because I was up to My eyeballs in crocodiles; of being trapped in My Toxic Family during those Childhood years loll]

In this particular show? The Main Female Character has been told She is dying of some brain tumor in Her head, and she has approximately 100 days to live.

The Story is written a little too Conceptual for My liking – Writers do best, IMO, when there aren’t too many different storylines to follow, and when the discussion is more IRL Experience based versus too indepth Conceptual based. This show makes that latter mistake. But, I usually hang in there through the end, if I’ve gotten to at least the end of episode 4.

I imagine – as I identify with this Lady who’s dying – what would I do, if I was “imminently” facing My expiration date, IRL? Who would I tell?

“It Just Depends.”

Technically? I am already well aware – Conceptually – that I *am* dying: I have a chronic disease that can kill Me at any moment [N: Type 1 diabetes] and… I live solo in Current Day. And I haven’t taught My cats to call 911 if They find Me on the floor, passed out from too low blood sugar, so I can imagine just being dead at some point. Probably, at the most inconvenient time for TECH’s scheduling of To-Do’s.

You might wonder if having this disease makes Me fear dying. Nope, I don’t fear it. Even having the Experience of trying to off Myself at least once – and I came real close that second time, several years later – I still have, in Current Day, a “healthy respect” for Death. When Death arrives? I won’t freak out. TBH, I may not even be aware of it – the only Human Beings that are really “aware” of My Death will be all the Other People that surround Me. I’ll just be here one minute, gone the next minute. Easy peasy!

But what I am very, very aware of? What constantly pings My SB? Whatever amount of Time I have left on the clock. Why is that the detail I notice the most?

Because I have sh#t I wanna do. Sh#t I’m doing, actually, right now: Writing – and then posting – My Stories here, for You, DR.

This mission? This “PASSION Project” of Mine? It’s more important to Me than Life itself. And even if the clock runs out on Me I’m gonna keep doing what I’m doing. Because You never know, right? Who You Connect with, Who You talk to, Who You buy a random tank of gas for, or share Your sandwich with at lunchtime, or just smiling at a Stranger who’s passing You, going the opposite side of the street, crying. This Other Person? They are crying. Their heart is breaking. That’s PASSION, Who’s heart You see breaking in that Other Person’s tears. And what can I do, in that single moment? What?! “WHAT??!?”

. . .

Well, I can stay watchful. I can notice the details. And, if I get consent from this OP – if Their eyes meet My eyes – that’s exactly the moment:

I can smile at Them. Brightly. Like an emotional Lighthouse on a dark, stormy cliff in the middle of a vast ocean.

Smiling has this Power, DR. It’s like a bullet, shot directly into the heart. But this bullet? This bullet doesn’t kill Me.

It Saves Me.

. . .

Conner’s Comments: I’ve seen all kinds of variations of “what to do if I find out I’m imminently dying?” through an infinite number of Art Imitating Life creative-esque media. I’ve learned to Not make the Rookie mistake of pondering it in too much realistic detail, because My SB will take any Idea is “too fleshed out” and get right to work manifesting it IRL. That imagery, “I wanna win a gold medal”? That works with Everything, DR. So… be careful what You wish for.

BTW – the title of this Story refers to what this Lady’s Bestie says verbally – in anguish, despair, and torment – upon finding out Her Friend is dying in 100 days. [N: this is for TECH: “Doom At Your Service”] The Answer to Bestie’s question: You don’t know data that TECH hasn’t acquired already, because it’s impossible to know something “by osmosis.” You have to do it the old-fashioned way – by observation. By verbal communication. By watching for the sub-text. The body language. The clues, that in Hindsight You recall that You missed paying attention to.

I don’t reveal any details of My Life to Other People that are not Connected with Me. I can’t reveal any details to OP that don’t reach out & talk to Me, or that I don’t Trust. I won’t reveal any details to any OP that doesn’t help create a Safe Space in which to be vulnerable… and if You push Me? Imma just lie anyways. So don’t waste Your breath.

But if You Love Me, DR? You really, really Love Me? You better let Me know before I level up. Because I don’t learn anything by osmosis. Not yet, anyways loll.

/CR

“It’s My Disguise”

Posted on by Conner Romesco

Why do I need a disguise, You wonder DR? Here’s Why.

“I need a disguise to protect Myself from those Other People – IRL or Conceptual – Who would cause Me harm.”

If I Trust You, DR? The drawbridge to My castle – My Sanctuary – is down. For Everybody Else? Not only is the drawbridge shut – locked up tight, maybe nailed shut, even – but also there are jaw-snapping crocodiles & hungry, toothy piranha fish swimming in circles all around in the murky moat. [N: They are My Friends – I toss in some Kitty Kibble for them to munch on, every so often]

[N: this manifests IRL as Me, never leaving My house, seeing Human Beings unless I have to venture out – for groceries, drugs, doc appts, singing at church on Sunday, walking the dogs I’m currently fostering, etc. etc. – not because I’m any sort of “shut-in” or “recluse” or “monster”… it’s because I have “a lot on My mind” loll]

You may be Connected with Me IRL, DR, or maybe You just got lost one day, and found Me, here in this Virtual place. It’s irrelevant how We got Connected to Each Other, IMO. I’m sure there’s a reason – the Universe’s reason, and usually those reasons are UNKN to Me, personally. But You are here, now, Connected with Me in this moment… so Imma ask You for a bid.

“Don’t blow My cover.” Please.

And if You accept My bid – and there are No Guarantees that You will; You are not obligated to do anything I say because “You are the Only Boss of You” – then I’ll reveal a bit more about Myself for Your mental “Conner R” File.

*Spoiler Alert!* I’m an @$$hole. No, really – I don’t take what any Other Person says “at face value” because there is always more. There’s more to the Story. And this OP could be lying to Me. I’m not a Mindreader!? [N: not Yet, anyways *wink, wink*]

Now, I Love a good Story – it’s probably Why I enjoy Connecting with Other Human Beings so often – and I will always try to fill in any Madlibs blanks with as much IRL Experience data as possible. But – and this is a big butt – when I don’t have access to this OP’s internal data? Either They don’t Trust Me yet, or They are lying to Me? Imma fill in the blanks with My best guess, or “the best case scenario.” That is, until this particular OP “proves Me wrong” through My Own observation of Their Own behavior in any mutual Experience event We – Me & Them – share together. Because if there’s one thing I’m pretty good at now? Smelling bull$h#t a mile away. [N: bullsh#t = inauthenticity] And once I get a whiff of BS? Imma take My toys and go home. DUh!! “See ya.”

Thinking more about it, maybe the label “@$$hole” is too strong a word. How ‘bout… Rule-breaker? Boat rocker? Boundary-tester? All of these work, too, for Me.

Here’s the tagline that I have on My email addy right now:

“The Smartest Crazy Person You’ve Never Met.”

/CR

“If You Ask a Conceptual Question, Expect a Conceptual Answer”

Posted on by Conner Romesco

Several times a day – because I like to know “What’s Up” in the World – I open a browser on My cell & review the headlines – Yahoo, CNN, etc. etc.

I don’t click to read most of them.

Why? TECH doesn’t need to. Just the headline gives Me enough data – gives TECH enough data – to know if whatever information this article might contain is relevant to Me, My Own Life, or Something “I care about.” And care about doesn’t mean I *don’t* technically care about it – I mean c’mon! I care if a bunch of People just got bombed in the Current Day Russia-vs-Ukraine war, for example – but when I say I don’t care about something it means, “this situation or event does not firsthand affect Me, in My day-to-day IRL Life.”

But – and this is a big butt – that’s way too many words! So TECH likes to short-cut things – TECH refers to this as “efficiency” – and just uses these three small words: “I. Don’t Care.” The End.

But back to My Story.

The Dear Abby letters always trigger PASSION, because PASSION is curious as to how Other Human Beings handle certain situations. TECH enjoys DA letters, too, because I acquire “different perspective” data – and the more TECH has this type of data? The better I become about interacting with the IRL Human Beings I am Connected with, in My Own Life.

So, here’s the headline: “Dear Annie: Should I confront the parents of my son’s bully?” posted 042125 [N: in full disclosure, it’s a Dear Annie article, not a Dear Abby one smh]

TECH immediately shouts: “No!!” In answer to this headline’s question… but Me? I wanna talk about other stuff, not the bully-slash-talk to parents situation. [N: that’s Another Story for Another day]

What I wanna talk about is the Person writing the letter, asking for air-quotes ‘advice.’

And writing in to Dear Annie, Abby or whoever You want is all fine & good – Everyone is the Boss of Themselves, so do what You want in Your Own Life, DR – but know going in that the Answer will only be a Conceptual one.

A Conceptual answer is one that is devoid of any of the associated emotions, Context, and anything else that is the whole of communication. It’s like reading an email Somebody sent to Me: all My SB can do is read the words. All I can do is acquire the technical data. I literally have no way to get anything else.

Unless… I am Connected to this OP who emailed Me & have a verbal convo with Them, IRL. Verbal Connecting with any Other Person affords Me the opportunity to “gain insight” into the situation… and give a better response to it.

But Dear Abby? That’s all Conceptual discussion. At least, it is for Me, the Reader of the article via the Internet. For all I know, Annie received this letter & picked up the phone to have a verbal conversation with this ‘frustrated/worried/concerned for Their Kid’ Parent, first, before finishing/posting this article for the rest of Us out here. Those are UNKN details to Me. And as the saying goes, “the Devil is in the Details.”

So sure, imagining Me in an IRL convo with My Bestie about this article – and the fact that it’s a topic of verbal discussion is important to notice, because I only verbalize things that ping or trigger My SB – I can only discuss My thoughts Conceptually.

If We – Me & My Bestie – are both Parents w/ this-sized Children in grade school, or daycare, or whatever – that’s when My Answers start to change. Now? All bets are off – now there is an IRL situation to deal with. Maybe My Bestie is this DA Letterwriter, with this exact same situation IRL, and is asking Me for advice. Asking Me “what I should do, if I was Them and this was My Kid.”

She – My Bestie, here – is asking Me for My help to figure this out. She’s asking for My emotional *Support.*

. . .

Conner’s Comments: Not every Human Being can ‘do’ Support to another Human Being, no matter how Connected They are to that OP, or “how much I Love Them!” Just like not Everybody can walk & chew gum at the same time. But every HB does have the potential to give Another Person this type of Support. But – from what I’ve seen – most Folks make the Rookie mistake of telling their SB “I can’t do that… it’s just not Who I Am.” And whatever Seeds You Plant for Your Own SB, DR? Your SB gets immediately to work, manifesting that Reality for You in the External World. smh

And because I know blanks drive TECH crazy when trying to do Madlibs, I’ll give You an idea of what I might try if this is My Kid, IRL. First, I sit Him down, hug Him, and tell Him: “It’s all gonna be okay, Honey.” Then, I would ask Him how He felt when the Bully Kid hit him, because My Kid has to learn to use his words to express the NEC out of His Physical Body. [N: Kids that never learn this grow up to be Adults that can’t do it.. which causes chaos] Then, I’d give My Kid a relevant example from this Kid’s own Life: “Honey, what do I do when You are kicking & screaming & mad as anything?” If He can’t remember, I remind Him: “I give You a big hug. I hold You very tightly until You calm down.” Pause here and there, to let the Kid process the data. “And when I hug You, do You feel better?” Let the Kid answer this question alone. [N: if the answer is anything but Yes, You have more work to do, Mom]

“Well, when You are at school and this Bully Kid comes up to start sh#t with You? Don’t be scared. Don’t run. Don’t cry. Face Him, and ask Him this: David! Do You need a Friend? Do You need a hug right now? Whatever You need? I’ll give it to You. Right here. Right now.” [N: if this BK is hitting My Kid, then that means My Son has mutual consent to hug Him. Plant a wet kiss on His cheek. Whatever distracts this BK… and taking an action the OP doesn’t expect Me to take always distracts Them loll]

And one more thing: This trick works best if it is executed immediately after the unwanted behavior happens. You wait too long? It becomes much harder to correct. Just FYI.

Good luck!

/CR

“Letting Sleeping Dogs Lie”

Posted on by Conner Romesco

**In Full Disclosure:** I won’t always give You the Context, DR… You & Your SB can apply Your Own Context to this Story. It’s like playing Madlibs – how You fill in the blanks makes a better AKA funnier AKA more interesting Story, amiright?? And I am a big proponent of “You Figure it Out!”

No, I don’t think You “are Stupid.” To Me personally? It’s unfair to label Anyone as Stupid. Why? Because Everyone is missing some necessary data. Or Context. Or… Experience. So comparing Me to any Other Person – apples to oranges – what gives Me the right to call You Stupid, DR, just because We – You & Me – don’t have the exact same data in Our mental Files? So calling You “Stupid” only makes Me look “close-minded” -or- “unaware” -or- “stuck in a Rabbit Hole.” Which, I usually try to avoid all of these things. [N: I’m getting better at it, the more I practice]

This Story has to do with Me in any situation where I am Connected in this exact moment with any OP. We – Me & Them – are having a discussion. A “meeting of the minds” as it were. All discussions – from My Experience – start out as Conceptual… and depending on how the chat evolves, then incorporates Someone’s Experience data. Here’s an Example:

Me: “A new Indian food restaurant just opened up in the mall…”

You: “Oh yeah! I was there last week; I’ve been there a hundred times! Great food… very authentic!”

Me: *TECH acquiring data as the OP shares data about this Indian restaurant*

You: “We should go! You’ll Love it!”

Now, stop right here. This – THIS – is KEY. The OP is Planting a Seed, here. Assuming They are in My Herd, They’ve already acquired Historical data, about Me – My likes, dislikes, etc. – in the Personnel File. So, verbalizing that I’m gonna “Love” this Indian restaurant is a guess. But also… it Plants a Seed for My SB. “Primes the pump,” basically.

Now, let’s rewind this interaction from the beginning, DR. I want You to ‘see’ how “Anything is Possible” in terms of how things can go with Other People. But Imma switch up the People in this Hypothetical Scenario: Now, it’s Me who is the One who is speaking first.

Me: “A new Indian food restaurant just opened up in the mall… It has great food! We should go!”

The OP: “Bleah! I *hate* Indian food!! I once ate this dish -blah blah blah – it was gross, I wanted to vomit -blah blah…” [N: the “blah blah’s” here mean that the details don’t matter: The Details – in this instance – are irrelevant. Now, if this was a Food Critic’s blog? Sure, the details would be relevant loll]

At the point I get this response from this OP? Now, I am at an Inflection Point. An Inflection Point is such that I can make – Conscious Me, makes – the decision on which path to pursue… each path achieving a different result.

Here’s a few choices, and their associated results.

  1. “You Dumb@$$! Indian food is da bomb! You don’t know what You are talking about!?!” The result is “I’m damaging My interpersonal relationship with this OP. But, as always,”It Depends” – if I say this while I’m laughing? The OP knows I’m being funny AKA joking. If I say it very seriously, but I am agitated/upset? The OP knows They just triggered Me.
  2. “I totally get it. That does sound gross! But…”

And I Plant A Seed. I “leave the door open.” I leave the Story “unfinished” in this OP’s SB. I can say something like this:

“If You ever wanna try it, We can go together… I’ll let You take a bite of My favorite dish…” I pause a few seconds.

And then I jump – immediately – to a different subject.

[N: this is called “Distraction” – talking about Indian food just now was painful for this OP, due to Their Own IRL Experience of “having that gross meal that one time.” I Plant the Seed to leave the door open for maybe a Future oppty to “try Indian Food again” and then I use any other verbal statement to redirect this OP’s attention… just like leading a dog on a leash: The dog goes where I want the dog to go]

. . .

Conner’s Comments: As with any TECH process, You must be careful, DR, to withhold any evaluation based on “not enough data in the Files.” It’s like getting a Child to try new foods: If You only feed the Kid mashed potatoes one time – and for whatever reason the Kid doesn’t “like” it texture/flavor/not enough salt, etc. etc. – You better Plant a Seed that tells this Kid’s TECH to “just try it three times” and that’s “all You have to do”… Otherwise? You are raising a picky Kid, which will become a picky Adult & have issues Connecting with Other People from an interpersonal relationship perspective. Just a tip.

/CR

“‘Fake’ News!” – Society’s Current Day F-Word

Posted on by Conner Romesco

The Necessary Context: In any exchanging of data between 2 distinct/separate/individual Human Beings – in this case, Me & any Other Person – something I just said clearly triggered Them, for some ‘as yet UNKN reason.’

And – like all good F-words – “that which is designed to inflame/incite/trigger an emotional response in the OP” – adding the word ‘fake’ in front of the word ‘news’ totally achieves this desired result. At least, what I am personally going for when I say this phrase.

But saying Fake doesn’t just work as a trigger: It’s also a Tell.

[N: tell = that behavioral thing the opposing Poker Player does that ‘tells’ Me what cards They are holding right now]

It’s taken Me some practicing, to learn how to Not be triggered whenever I hear the words screamed, “Fake News!” But – and this is a big butt – I did succeed. And in Current Day, while hearing this phrase still pings My SB… it no longer triggers PASSION into a total frenzy. Which is always My goal: Figure out a way to Not trigger PASSION… because once PASSION is triggered? All the air is sucked out of the room, and TECH’s being suppressed from doing or saying anything construction. The saying, “My hands are tied” applies here.

But back to My Story.

Let Me break it down into the Details, DR. [N: Details = “where the Devil is”]

Since I already know that whatever I just said triggered this response in the OP I am currently Connected with, the first thing I’m gonna do is ‘check’ the Context of Our – Mines & Theirs – discussion. Are They being funny? Are They making a joke, with this “Fake News” accusation? Being aware of the Context is KEY – it gives TECH more data on this current situation, allowing Me to take a more measured external response.

Okay. So let’s say this OP is Not joking: They are pi$$ed off, or upset, or yelling/screaming right now. [N: yup, definitely triggered loll]

Next? TECH evaluates the Personnel Files – Who is this OP to Me, personally? Do “I care” about Them? Meaning, are They a Stranger standing in front of Me in the line at the grocery store? Or waiting for Their Starbucks order to be called out by the barista? Or… is this a Thanksgiving potluck with all My immediate Family AKA blood Relatives?

If I don’t ‘care’ about this OP – i.e. meaning, I’ll probably never cross paths with Them again IRL – then I’ll probably just laugh the whole thing off. Why? Because that saying, “It’s Better to be Kind than be Right” applies here. And – as is always My Own Priority – I don’t ever intentionally do anything that might get Me killed. [N: this OP could be packing right now for all I know… and I’d rather not acquire any Proof loll]

Where was I? Oh yeah. This is Someone I know & am Connected with, IRL. They are in My Herd in some way – a Loved One, a Friend/Bestie, an Acquaintance, a Distant Relative, or… My MIL. The Bottom Line: This is Someone I will be seeing over & over for infinity, and because of this fact I do not want to explode any mental grenades in Their Own SB right at this moment.

*laughing as I say it* “No, it’s not ‘Fake News’ – it’s very much Real News.”

[N: I consider the use of the word Fake here to mean one of several things: 1) This OP doesn’t wanna believe what I am saying is True, 2) This OP is embarrassed that They didn’t already have this data acquired previously, but is pretending to Save Face, or 3) This OP wants to shut down conversation on this particular topic for whatever Reason They find it distasteful]

This is My first approach. I’m testing the waters, here, with My response. Before TECH launches into “attempting to give My MIL new data on this topic” I must ‘see’ if She is receptive to acquiring this new data. If MIL is not receptive at the moment? I can Plant a Seed and back away – and save the verbal sparring for another day, a better time, etc. etc. [N: “Timing is Everything”]

It’s Better to Be Kind than Be Right… It’s Better to Be Kind than Be Right… It’s Better to Be…

. . .

Conner’s Comments: This Story might feel “unfinished” to Your SB, DR, but that’s all I wanna say right now. [N: You & Your Own SB will “finish” it] Don’t worry – I will be touching on all these topics a bunch more times in Future Stories – but the way to eat an Elephant? “One bite at a time.” This saying applies here.

One alternate response TECH has in My mental Files – which I can whip out when the Context allows – borrows from a Jack Nicholson’s line:

“You Can’t Handle the Truth!” [N: Great movie, this]

“My Love Letter to You, DR”

Posted on by Conner Romesco

Do You realize, DR, that We (You & Me) are Connected right now? Virtually, sure, but We are still Connected, Conceptually, IRL. And – If You continue reading this Story – I want You to know something Key: You are giving Me Your consent to enter Your Own SB.

And what will I be doing there, You ask? Well, in this particular Story, *Spoiler Alert!* Imma set off a few mental grenades. Here’s the first one:

“You Already Have Everything You Need.”

And here’s Why paying attention to the Context always matters. You might be sitting there, distracted by whatev, and reading this Story here, and when You see those words strung together in that particular order? TECH immediately jumps up to say the following:

“Bullsh#t, Conner! I most certainly do Not have “everything I need!?!” There’s a lot of sh#t I don’t have right now! Money, a job, a home, any Friends, Family, etc. etc. You f#cker! You don’t know Me!!” *grrrrrrrrr, rowr, hisssss, snap-crackle-pop*

[N: breathe! Breathe… keep breathing. lemme finish pls]

Here comes what I refer to as “The relevant Context.”

Every Story You read here will do one of two things. One? Some detail will resonate for You, DR, in Your Own SB. Or two… it will Plant a Seed for You.

Any Human Being You verbally talk to, any movie You watch, book You read – all those activities Plant Seeds for Your SB. And those Seeds? Super important. Seeds are what My Subconscious Brain ‘eats.’ Just like pizza & tacos keep My Physical Body alive? These Seeds keep My SB alive. These Seeds give Me ideas. They change My Own Perspective. And true – sometimes they hurt. [N: “growing pains”]

Either of these two results? Accurate. Correct. “Functioning as designed.” And No, sometimes You aren’t gonna ‘like’ it. But liking isn’t promised, in anything IRL.

But here’s Why I wanted to write You this Love Letter, DR, and that is to tell You a secret:

“There. Is. No. Test.”

But whether or not You, personally, are killing this level of The Game – or completely crashing & burning in Current Day [N: like a phoenix] – everything You see? Everything You do?  Everything You feel/dream/Experience? It’s all by design. Seriously. And No, I know that sounds very ‘Bible-Thumper’-esque, but please don’t label Me in Your SB as such. [N: it’s totally not accurate]

One last thing: All these Stories where revealed to Me – My guess, here – because I Experienced a sh#tload of trauma in My Life already. But not just that I Experienced it: I Survived it. I didn’t succeed in offing Myself – although I did try once or twice – and because I’m still here? I believe the Universe rewarded Me. “Threw Me a bone,” as it were. So what am I gonna do now? Imma leave My Own mark on this External World. Because I wanna be… remembered. I wanna believe My Life means something, here, now, and will continue to mean something long after I’ve leveled up.

My guess? “Being Remembered” is what every Human Being wants. IMO

/CR

“My SB: The Prerequisite Class”

Posted on by Conner Romesco

Generally, here’s how stuff goes, DR.

External events happen around/near Me that instantaneously plants data into My Gray Matter. [N: think Gray Matter = the cornfield]

TECH is basically the Farmer, who harvests this corn – uhh, data – and takes it back to The Invisible Library, where TECH sorts/organizes/creates Files for this data. More on what happens after, later.

While all this is happening, PASSION is simultaneously recording Memories, to which all My associated feelings/emotions are attached to each Memory in the mental Files. If it’s a good Memory with good feelings attached to it? PASSION can then recall the Memory & “relive the good feelings” attached to that data. If the Memory is bad – has negative feelings attached to it in the form of pain, trauma, etc. – then that Negative Emotional Content (NEC) can potentially get buried internally, if Conscious Me doesn’t allow that NEC to be expressed out of My Physical Body. [N: in some cases, Conscious Me isn’t even aware of the NEC – and unexpressed NEC will f#ck PASSION up for years afterwards, until Conscious Me gets a clue and starts poking around to dig the Pony out of the pile of sh#t that it’s currently buried under]

The data that TECH initially harvests can be Conceptual data, IRL Experience data, or both. Comparing apples to oranges: IRL Experience data always trumps Conceptual data, in most cases. This is because I can only gain understanding through Conceptual data, whereas I “learn the Lesson” through firsthand Experience data.

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Conner’s Comments: This should get You started, DR. Every other Story You read here will give You insight into various sides of the proverbial Elephant.

/CR

“If You Think This Website Is Being Put Together by a Child, You’re Right!”

Posted on by Conner Romesco

But! Not the perspective of ‘a physical body, based on chronological-age’ version of Human Child. The necessary Context is this: “Someone with a Mission to create a mechanism with which to share Their Own Unique Perspective with the Universe… and lacking almost any & all of the Conceptual data – and relevant professional Experience AKA expertise – with which to manifest this IRL result.” So, the Bottom Line? I’m totally Winging It.

And in full disclosure, I’m still Connecting with Support People who express a ‘willingness to help’ Me. The most impactful of this group? Christian. Who I just spoke to yesterday loll.

Now, Christian didn’t give Me the initial data for the air-quotes ‘Design Team’ option. That was Joey, probably about a month ago. And it doesn’t mean Joey was lacking in anything ‘Salesman, can Close the Deal’ skills per se. It just means that I Myself wasn’t ready. “Timing is Everything” – and it wasn’t time yet, for Me, budgetarily – or even ‘visualization’ – speaking.

But what Christian did that ‘got’ to Me? He spoke My SB’s language better… what He said ‘resonated’ more intensely for Me. He painted a picture for Me, which helped Me visualize My desired result. He validated My Own feelings. [N: AKA “WordPress is hard!” i.e. not as easy as Everyone makes it out to be]

I believe, in this first/singular/ initial Connection – that one, several-minutes phone call discussion – that Christian ‘got’ Me. That Christian ‘understood’ what I was trying to do… and Christian, having the tools & Conceptual data, was trying to help Me get there. [N: ‘getting Me’ makes Christian My Soulmate FYI]

Sure, TECH could say, “Well, this is Christian’s job – to sell this service!” but that completely ignores PASSION’s contribution. [N: again, proof that TECH has an ‘Interpersonal Relationships’ blind spot… but that’s a whole other Story for another day]

Christian made Me feel better about this whole pursuit. Christian helped Me believe that what I wanted to manifest is possible… with enough “drive” & something else I can’t recall loll. Christian made Me ‘see’ Myself, standing on that Olympic podium with a gold medal around My neck – and I believed I could do it. I believed I could win.

And fast-forward to Current Day? I obviously succeeded. Yayy, Me! As proven by the fact that You, DR, are now reading this Story – My very first one – posted on My newly birthed website.

But right now, as I write this Story? My website is still Conceptual, in My Own mind. Next order of business? TECH – who manages My budget – creatively figures out how to bounce the dollars around so I can pay for the Design Team for one month. [N: I’m hoping I can get a functional product completed in that one month so I can start posting Stories – i.e. I’ll be ‘Winging It’ at that Future point] If I need more than one month, I’ll figure out those details later… that part of the Story hasn’t been written yet, so no sense in spinning My wheels until I get there & take a look around, see what exactly I need to do next.

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[N: Working with any Salesperson is like dating. I will buy the product from this specific Human Being if 1) I agree that this product will improve My Own Life in some way, solve a problem, fill an unMet Need, etc. etc. 2) I can carve out enough resources AKA $$ to acquire the thing, and 3) how strongly I Connect with this Other Person]

If PASSION is in the room? If PASSION ‘falls in Love’? Imma buy what You are trying to sell to Me, DR.

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Conner’s Comments: Christian almost triggered Me when He said – and I’m paraphrasing – that if I don’t ‘sh#t on the pot’ then it’s not a Priority for Me to make My website happen. But I know this is a sales, ‘always try to close’ thing… I mean, I Myself just quit a Sales job IRL so I know all about it. I don’t take it personally. I know Christian is only trying to help Me by doing His job. [N: and IMO? doing Sales is not an easy job!] But I know – because I have access to the inside of My head and Christian does not – I have to Prioritize the $$ that funds My Own Life. I’ll get to My goal, I just need to juggle more than one ball in the air at a time.

/CR