TECH: “Attention, attention Class! Class is Now in Session.”
I start with this line, DR, to “prime the pump.” I make a few assumptions right off the bat – I ‘know’ You’ve attended school for probably multiple years – so these specific words in this specific order is designed to ‘trigger’ Your SB to recall Your Own IRL Experiences of “going to school.” And – most importantly, from My POV – what “going to school” feels like, to You, personally.
Now, I want You to know something about this trick: I’m taking a huge risk, here. Sure, I’m trying to get Your mind in the same “space” as this Story I’m about to tell You, but also – depending on the images I trigger for Your unique SB, based on all the acquired data in Your mental Files, to date – this is a double-edged sword: If I throw a dart & pop the air-quotes ‘Wrong’ balloon? You’ll get triggered in a negative way… and I’ve lost My Audience.
So, Me? I’ve practiced Story-telling enough that I am very “aware” and “intentional” about the Pandora’s box I’m about to open. What will pop out of Your box? Monsters? Realization? Resonation? Will You get dopamine jolts? Or will You jump into the nearest Rabbit Hole to self-soothe, rocking back & forth with Your eyes sealed shut? It’s a mixed bag, and “Anything is Possible.”
But – and this is a big butt – Imma chance it, because even though the boo-boo underneath might have some lingering pain? I still gotta rip the band-aid off. The skin has healed over on the top level by now, and so I gotta move to the next level: what I can do to heal Your heart. Your insides. Your internal space.
But back to My Story.
I haven’t yet finished My PASSION vs. TECH sub-menu page – I’m working on it! I’ll get to it! “Timing is Everything!” Back OFF, TECH!?! – but while Your SB is waiting [N: patiently, Patiently… see here? Planting a Seed for You, DR loll] Imma give You the First Rule of “Other Person” interacting:
Figure out Who is Speaking Right Now.
Now, TECH? TECH is usually juggling a lot of To-Do’s in the air and wants to immediately jump to The Bottom Line. When it’s info & process data? It’s usually TECH. If it’s an interpersonal relationship? It’s usually PASSION. [N: I use the word ‘usually’ to convey that these Answers are Not “100% of the time” but rather, “most of the time”]
But this is easiest to figure out on Myself, because I have Everyone in My Own head. Everyone is here, in My Own internal space. Basically, I know Who is invited to My party, when it’s My Own SB.
When it comes to any Other Person? It starts to get… trickier. “It Just Depends,” eh?
But let Me Plant an Important Seed right here for You, DR: It’s Not Impossible to figure out.
Let this sink in for a minute, DR.
Most Folks tell themselves – I’ve firsthand witnessed this, heard it, Experienced it, etc. etc. – “I just can’t figure You out!?!” These Poor Unfortunate Souls are making a Rookie mistake here. They are “Setting Themselves up for Failure.” These ‘limited thinking Human Beings’ are Planting a Seed for Their Own Subconscious Brain… and what is My SB designed to do? Manifest it. IRL. [N: DUh! It’s so obvious!?!]
It’s not My SB’s job to figure out if the Seed being Planted – by Me or Anyone Else – is ‘Good’ or ‘Bad’ yet. That’s Conscious Me’s job to make the Executive Decision – CM is the ‘Executive’ in this Context – to accept/allow this Seed to remain, or to reject it AKA “banish the Seed to the cornfield.” [N: the cornfield = the Gray Matter]
But the ability to do this is in the later classes. We are in 1st grade right now, here in this Story.
Back to My Story, again. [N: because I keep going off on a tangent. This happens to PASSION a lot loll]
Oh yes! Other People, “figure out Who is Speaking..” – I remember! *snaps fingers*
Both sides of My SB have their own “tells.” Once You start seeing them, DR? You can’t unsee them. [N: Trust Me on this, but gather Your Own IRL data using the OP in Your Herd]
PASSION’s tells: Eye contact. Smiling, but with teeth. Smiling, with skin around eyes crinkling up. Laughing. Big gestures. Hugging. High, high energy… but not always seen in externally executed behaviors. PASSION can be present, but totally undercover. “Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing,” as it were. Whenever the OP says, “My Gut” tells Me something? This is PASSION.
TECH tells: Data-acquisition driven. Uses Auto-Pilot in order to “get more sh#t done” all at once. [N: to TECH, this is “efficiency”… which is fine, to a point] Ask questions, but gets aggravated by PDA, emotional outbursts, anything “feelings” or “emotions”-related. These things make TECH… uncomfortable. This discomfort makes TECH sometimes appear as “cold” to Other People. Overly serious. Matter-of-fact. Seeks Proof for stuff. Seeks Who to blame for stuff. Uses words like “should” and “appropriate” a lot.
I’ll give You much, much more on P & T as We go along, DR, but that’s enough for today. If You can figure out – AKA “notice the external behavior” and “put two & two together”- which Perspective is Speaking out of the Physical Body of the Other Person in front of You right now? You know Who’s running the Show at the moment. [N: and Who is speaking changes on a dime, even in the same conversation/discussion FYI]
If You can figure out Who is Speaking? You can formulate a better way of responding. You can figure out “how to handle it.”
Good luck.
/CR