I Connected with a G/F of Mines last night. [N: Missy is one of My many Soulmates – but that’s Another Story for Another day] I drove out to see Her newly purchased home – Her First! So it felt like I was visiting her New Baby loll – and We ended up going to the Korean BBQ place down the street… I passed it on My way to Her house and – when it was dinnertime – suggested We go there.
During dinner – which is always tons of fun & excitement, and last night was No Exception – Missy told Me the Story from Her History Files [N: “that one time? at band camp?”] where She was roped into training some Other Person because that chick’s Own Boss didn’t know the job She was tasked with. [N: and therefore could not train her Own direct report smh]
In reviewing this one Accounting report that “Somebody created ages ago & Nobody in Current Day had any use for” – but of course, this Chick was still obligated to generate this report – Missy says during this explaining of how to generate the report: “It’s a Masturbatory Exercise.. but it still needs to be generated, given to So-n-So,” and whatever else came next.
My guess? *mental grenade exploded* in this Chick’s SB. I mean, DUh! It did in Mine, too, just listening to this Story being retold!
So of course Chick – being, clearly, a Pearl-Clutching Troglodyte – runs to HR to tattle that, “Missy said ‘masturbate!? Agggghhhhh!?!?” And – Short Story Long – this episode ended with Missy getting written up by Her Boss.
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Two months later – when Missy tendered Her resignation – Her Boss commented in a deer-in-the-headlights voice, “We never thought You’d leave!” amazed & mystified, because Missy is “very Good” at Her job. [N: i.e. does the work of 3 People]
But, clearly, Missy’s Boss didn’t Prioritize Missy’s work ethic or anything relevant. Missy’s Boss let this triggered Chick trigger herself – made a mountain out of a molehill, threw the baby out with the bathwater – and instead of just “laughing it off” ended up writing Missy up. Because – Contextually – “Them’s the Rules.”
Okay, time out. First, TECH is talking about the Rules. And all Rules start out Conceptual.. until You find Yourself in an IRL mutual Experience situation with any Other Person… TECH is supposed to acquire this Context data & use it in My Own internal evaluation. Before I act.
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This is Why – IMO – that “All Boats Rise” Concept is flawed: All Boats do not and will not and cannot ‘rise’ when Everybody’s distracted & looking for “blood in the water.” Boats won’t rise if You think the water is tainted or poisoned in some UNKN way.
Missy? We Connected – initially – because I was drawn to Her unique & refreshing “higher level of discourse.” We are able to exchange ideas at a much higher level than the current one Everybody Else is playing at. But what I’ve realized – at least right now in Current Day – is when You fly above the rest of the flock? That just gets You killed. [N: Missy’s Story resonated strongly for Me, because I also have a similar Historical Experience in My Files, where this kind of high-level speaking ended with Me getting written up. smh]
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Conner’s Comments: I am now “more discriminating” in who, specifically, choose to reveal My True Self to. I test the fences often – like those velociraptors in Jurassic Park – and if I don’t feel any shocks I keep nibbling at the fence. Peck-peck-peck, like the Little Chicken that I am. I “test the waters” before I jump into the pond.
And if I smell any whiff of danger? That I’m surrounded by Troglodytes? I play dumb: Every Answer is, “Uhh, I dunno.” Because it’s no longer a requirement to know One’s Own job even. So this is a “get out of jail free” card.
I will find My Herd. And for Everybody Else?
“I play the Game.”
And one more thing: Whenever You are talking to any OP where You say a high-level word that You notice triggers them – either they start sputtering, yelling, or even “stunned silence”- just take a breath, stop talking, and say this:
“Do You not know what that word means?” [N: TECH will Never admit not knowing something] *Smile* – and then tell them the definition. But “dumb it down” loll. And give Them a Chef’s Kiss:
“Look it up!” *PASSION runs off cackling gleefully*