I have a Rich Uncle. I am a Poor Person. Both of these things are True.
And now here is the Devil – uhh, I mean “the Details.”
First off, any Other Person who I believe “has more money than Me” = “Rich.” It’s irrelevant how much more Richer the OP is; it’s just the fact that They have more money at Their disposal than I do is how TECH categorizes Them as ‘Rich.’ And I don’t include the entirety of the available Conceptual data in this evaluation, meaning, I don’t include “Warren Buffet billionaire-Rich” in My File, because I have No IRL Connections to Warren Buffet… or any Reasonable Substitute for WB.
So My Uncle – “Uncle Mike” – sets the top threshold of My perception of the idea “Rich” in My SB.
Uncle Mike Connects with Me, periodically, when He is in town for Work. His job has Him traveling a lot, so I benefit when He comes to crash at My house for a couple days. And when I say “I benefit” I mean, specifically, PASSION benefits, because I get the opportunity to deepen Our (Mines & His) interpersonal relationship. [N: TECH doesn’t benefit because no $$ is exchanged in this arrangement, by design]
Now, DR, Imma guess You are wondering right now: “If You are so Poor Conner, and You are doing Uncle Mike a favor by letting Him stay with You when He’s in town, Why don’t You charge Him?”
You’re Right, DR! I could charge Him. But I don’t. I won’t. Because I – Conscious Me, now – chooses not to. I’ve made this Executive Decision.
“I weighed the options.” That’s Society’s phrase, but really what I am weighing is My Own SB’s various POVs & My Own unmet needs in Current Day: Am I Poor? Y. Does Uncle Mike have more $$ than Me? Y. If I asked Him for any money, do I believe He would give it to Me? Y.
So far so good. But there’s more to this Story – there’s *always* more to the Story – so let’s keep going. It’s My Story: let Me keep telling it loll.
“I am a full-fledged Adult” – and Me? I like the idea that I can survive with My Own effort. That I don’t have to “count on” any Other Person.
“I’ve made it through worse, before.” – when I recall growing up in My toxic Family? I remember that was Hell on Earth… but I Lived. “The Boy Who Lived.” So even though I am a PP right now? It’s only temporary. I’ll get through this tunnel, as long as I keep the train moving.
“I want to Prioritize the Relationship.” – this is all PASSION, here. Any relationship, anywhere, is in PASSION’s sandbox. What PASSION says with respect to keeping this relationship healthy & secure? I’m definitely gonna listen to. Not to say PASSION always gets what PASSION wants – but I will weigh PASSION’s input more heavily in this particular case. [N: AKA never kill the goose that is laying the golden eggs]
*Spoiler Alert!* PASSION made a very good case and Influenced Me – the Boss – the most.
All this is Context for the Story I’m trying to tell You now, DR, in Current Day.
As I go about My business moving through Time & Space, I add stuff to My Costco List. When I was more flush with cash, I would do this adding to the List more willy-nilly, but now that My budget is tighter I have to be more discriminating about what I put on this List – and example is buying 16 sticks of unsalted butter at Costco, versus just 4 sticks of butter at Stater Bros. “Weighing the options.”
So PASSION – feeling sympathy for TECH not getting My way – brainstormed a solution. Not, “a solution to the problem of No Money” but rather “a solution to TECH feeling aggravated/annoyed/unLoved” by My final Executive Decision.
And what did I do? I sent Uncle Mike a bid.
[N: A bid, essentially, is an Ask. A “Request for Help.” It is completely not obligatory on the side of the Recipient of the bid. Uncle Mike is under no obligation to agree/comply with My Request]
But – and this is a big butt – I have to Not take that choice out of Uncle Mike’s hands. I hafta simply… “Ask” for what I need. And let the chips fall where they may.
I texted UM saying something along the lines of, “Next time You are around, if You wanna Thank Me for being able to crash at My pad, We can go to Costco so I can get what’s on My List and You can pay for it On My Behalf.” I’m paraphrasing, here, because it’s unnecessary to repeat what I said verbatim – too many details ruins the Story FYI.
I finished off the bid with My usual close: [N: after making a bid to Folks]
“otherwise: No Worries! Ill never refuse You, regardless xox”
Because I don’t Trust Uncle Mike’s SB – TECH, specifically – to Not feel ‘obligated’ to help Me, because “I’m Family.” And TECH has Conceptual data that says, “Always Help My Family.” [N: I already know that Mike has no Exceptions to this Rule, yet, in His Own Files] I know this by observing Uncle Mike’s behavior, and listening to how He talks FYI.
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Conner’s Comments: I always do My best to respond to a bid from any Other Person, regardless of the details. Why? Because the “out of the blue” request to hang out or Connect with Me? This Human Being might be thinking of offing Themselves. They might be getting rid of something They Own, but They know I can use in My Own Real Life. They might wanna set Me up on a Blind Date, where I meet My Future Wife. Or? They may just wanna further develop Our (Theirs & MInes) interpersonal relationship. They need a ‘friendly ear.’ They need My advice, and They Trust Me to give the best ideas I’ve got.
It literally could be anything. But that part of the Story isn’t written yet.
So Imma keep going through this tunnel.
“Anything is Possible.” *munches popcorn*