Have You heard this one, DR?
There’s a fairly well-known tale of a Scorpion & a Frog, standing next to each other near a lake.
The Scorpion convinces the Frog – “Influences” the Frog – to let Himself ride on the Frog’s back to get across the lake [N: to the other side]… but the Frog isn’t convinced, immediately, that the Scorpion isn’t going to kill Him – and so the Frog hesitates.
“Dude! Trust Me!! Why would I do that? I have no Reason to harm You. You are doing Me a favor – and if I mess with You, Imma screw Myself too, right?? How does that make any sense?”
So the Frog is swayed by this logical argument, and takes the Scorpion across the lake on His back.
*Spoiler Alert!* *in My best Narrator voice*
“It does Not go well.”
This Story is about TECH. Or, this is PASSION’s Story too – depending on Your Own perspective, DR. But I am the Story-teller right now, so Imma pick “what’s in the left hand” first.
Recall that TECH’s job/role is to get Me, safely & soundly, physically through Time & Space. And so, TECH’s “comfort zone” is all My acquired data – the information, the Rules, the processes, the ‘How To’s’ of stuff that I air-quotes ‘learn’ all along the way – because this is how TECH figures out Who is My Friend… and Who is My Foe. “Inquiring Minds Wanna Know,” is the saying that applies here.
Me personally? I am never “the Bad Guy”… so until I acquire enough IRL mutual Experience data with You, DR, You – technically – are a “Foe.” [N: because TECH thinks in opposites, You – Other Person I’m facing, right now, on My path – are ‘Bad’ to My ‘Good,’ by default.
PASSION? PASSION is the opposite of TECH… according to TECH.
PASSION is stupid, opposite of My smarts. PASSION is silly & tiresome, while I have a never-ending List of To-Do’s. All PASSION wants to do is Play, when all I wanna do – all I must do, because I am the Most Important, here – is Work.
But it isn’t just that PASSION is everything TECH isn’t: It’s also primarily because TECH can’t figure PASSION out. And that’s Why TECH “butts heads” with PASSION – because if I can’t figure stuff out? It makes Me unsettled. It makes Me discombobulated. And, as a result of these feelings: It makes Me feel less… Safe.
TECH works extremely hard, 24/7, to make Me feel Safe in My Own skin. In My Own space.
When I feel like “Everything was so much more simpler in The Olden Days…”? This is TECH, and TECH is Right. There were less distractions, less triggers, less pings to My SB. Now? Instead of just watching the sun rise – which is how We All knew “it was time to go to work in the fields” – now Our Entire/literal World is a million Chickens, pecking Me to death, 24/7 – not just IRL, but also now Social Media, too!? W.T. actual F??!
And because – with each new Meet Cute – TECH has to work really hard, deciding Who is a Friend & Who is a Foe? I’m utterly exhausted, like all the time.
And so, one of the tweaks I am trying to make to My “Meet Other People” process is to ‘treat Everybody like a Foe… until I have a reason Not to.”
Which, PASSION calls BullSh#t on. Because that’s Not how PASSION rolls.
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Conner’s Comments: You, DR? We are Connected, and so You are No longer a potential threat; No longer a tiger, hiding in the bushes that’s waiting to jump out and kill Me. So if – to Me – You are Not a Foe? You are a Friend. [N: TECH – “are You insane?! Dummy! Don’t be an Idiot!]
But if I always see Myself as the Frog – TECH always sees Myself as the Frog – then TECH will forever see You, DR, as the Scorpion. And if I see You that way? If I have evaluated You as a Bad Guy – even before I’ve gotten any IRL data on You? This is Why We have that phrase, Self-fulfilling Prophesy.
I Am the Scorpion to You, DR. I hafta Be – for Your TECH to keep You Safe. That’s the Rules! But – and this is a big butt – Please: Observe what I do. And hear what I say. And judge Me – evaluate Me – on this data, too, Not just all Your Conceptual data about Me. Still… “I’m Not the Boss of You,” am I.