TECH is an @$$hole. And this comes from a place of “complete access to all the relevant data.”
I hafta keep My eye on TECH, because – left to My Own devices – TECH would set fire to everything I Love. So yeah. “TECH! Back away from the ledge! But the gun down!”
But – fortunately for Me – TECH has very obvious tells… and now that I am getting better about noticing those tells? I keep Myself outta trouble.
I am super busy, all the time. TECH calls it “getting sh#t & To-Do’s done” but PASSION is being distracted, mostly. It doesn’t matter if what needs to get done is “Important” or not – PASSION doesn’t care about the details, mostly – it’s all “I don’t Feel like it!” with PASSION. So I gotta be… sneakier. I gotta trick PASSION to “play on My team” when I need to do certain things IRL.
But this Story is about TECH. Why? Because sure – TECH is My Villain – but also I find that most Other People I intersect with IRL are using TECH first: They are trying to evaluate if I – a Stranger to Them – is a “Friend” or a “Foe.”
I totally get it.
When I have any To-Do to do [N: pun intended] it’s TECH that’s doing the doing. TECH gets annoyed a lot because TECH does a lot of “Invisible Work” to get stuff done – earn the money, buy the ingredients, pay the utility bills so I can turn the oven on, mix up the batter & bake the cake, etc. etc. Usually? Without any acknowledgement or thanks. And that lack of acknowledgement, over the long haul? Totally triggers TECH. [N: when TECH gets triggered – and the only way I know it’s TECH being triggered is to look at the Why – PASSION will usually get Influenced, depending on the intensity of TECH’s feelings, and grab the grenade – right before it blows My head off]
But let’s say I’ve done this same task more than 2xs. Not at the same time – what I mean is, “I’m repeating the behavior to get X done, following all the usual steps” – steps that are documented in TECH’s Files. Think: I have to clean My house. I clean My house over & over infinity. I repeat the same behaviors AKA ‘take the same actions’ to clean My house, no matter how many times I have to do it.
After I’ve cleaned My house a couple times & have locked in “the procedure”? Now TECH can use Auto-Pilot. I no longer hafta think about *how* exactly to clean My house – just like I don’t hafta think about *how* to drive My car – I just have to press the Go button & physically let Auto-Pilot take over.
Why is Auto-Pilot useful? Because A-P allows TECH to do something else that requires more Conceptual thinking. It’s how I can clean My house while watching the News and listening to the radio & keeping an ear open for any “blood-curdling screams from My Kids” all at the same time. This is where the Concept of ‘multi-tasking’ comes from… but what’s more accurate to say is not that I am “doing all these things at once:” It’s more accurate to say I am doing most of these things in Auto-Pilot and the one thing that’s the Priority I am focused on in this moment.
I can be leaned over the toilet, scraping the ring inside the bowl with this handy tool I discovered along the way – completely focused on “the task at hand” – and All-Of-A-Sudden?! Outta Nowhere? I hear glass break. Or I hear My cat start heaving like He’s gonna throw up somewhere. Or even – I ate some bad sushi earlier & now I gotta use that same toilet to take a sh#t on. [N: I hate “stopping in the middle” so I am probably gonna run to My other bathroom to take a sh#t]
And this is all fine & good. This mostly works, most of the time. Except… when I am dealing with Other People. This is where TECH screws the pooch. [N: recall that TECH has a interpersonal relationships blind spot]
TECH does try, GodblessHim. But rather than trying to fit a square peg into a round hole? TECH is more effective when I equalize TECH with PASSION – PASSION, the self-described Relationships Expert.
TECH says, “If I hafta do it for You, I hafta do it for Everybody…”
TECH says, “Fair’s Fair – I hafta treat all My staff the Same…”
TECH says, “You aren’t special… You are literally just a number to Me/a Caller/a Customer…”
Because TECH likes to use Auto-Pilot. Auto-Pilot saves time. Auto-Pilot conserves My energy. Auto-Pilot allows TECH – allows Me – to move through Time & Space more efficiently. More easily. More comfortably.
But it’s not all about TECH. [N: TECH wishes! but, No]
What I’ve observed as a result of acquiring data My whole entire Life: If You f#ck with PASSION? PASSION will f#ck You right back. Sometimes, for literally years and years. So – in Hindsight – never f#ck with PASSION. Always pay attn to PASSION, and PASSION’s desires. PASSION’s needs. Or…
“You are Gonna Be Sorry.” [N: very, very sorry]
It’s not that PASSION is Right or “gets Her way” 100% of the time. It’s not that TECH gets His way 100% of the time, either.
It’s about Equilibrium.
And it’s My job – as the Boss and Executive Decision-maker – to make sure Everybody’s needs are balanced. Seriously, just this one thing takes up most of My Life loll.
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Conner’s Comments: “Everything looks like a Nail to a Hammer.” TECH’s goal is to save time, but if You, DR, don’t treat Me “the way I wanna be treated?” We (You & I) are gonna have problems. If I an an excellent Worker & You as My Boss don’t value My going above & beyond? Imma probably go in search of a new bill-paying gig. If You talk down to Me, because You believe every New Hire learns at the same pace? I’m gonna quit as soon as I find that next job. If You ignore Me, the Wife, because You are working all the time & think that’s “good enough”? I’m still gonna divorce You – but I’m probably gonna not tell You about it. [N: and I’ll lie, if You ask Me]
“It All just Depends.”