Otherwise, why am I wasting My time here?!? loll
But let’s start from the very beginning… “a very good place to start…” [N: thank You JA!]
The necessary Context: The Devil is in The Details.
Would I ever come out and say this verbally to You, DR? Hell No. I try not to project all My moves like that – it’s likely just to trigger You AKA shut Your SB down to Me, anyways. So yeah, I don’t actively try to make My own job harder.
Who’s talking here? TECH is. And the clue is in the intent of the words: “change” and “You.” TECH loves to Boss Other People around. These two words used in any sentence – no matter the length of it – are “fighting words.” Meaning, these words are designed – AKA ‘meant to’ – to trigger. But sometimes – because PASSION is being suppressed at the moment – TECH is oblivious to the OP’s NEC. [N: NEC – Negative Emotional Content] Which is a total Rookie mistake.
My goal – with every Human Being I Connect with IRL – is to change Them. I try to Influence. I Plant Seeds. I model certain behaviors I am trying to “teach” Them to copy… without coming out & slapping Them across the face with “My Own Knowledge & Genius.” [N: that was TECH just now.. and even typing those words in this Story rankles PASSION – I may edit it out later loll]
There seems to be some ridiculous idea out in Current Day Society that We – when I Connect with You and You Connect with Me – that We are supposed to just “accept Each Other right outta the box,” just as I come. Which, IMO is stupid. And close-minded. If this were the case, then every Child born to Mankind would be a biting, spoiled, selfish little “Lord of the Flies” psycho! And that leaves us with “the inmates are running the asylum” now.
But, it gets tricky when You are no longer dealing with a Child, amiright? Once I turn 18 years old, You, DR, are Not The Boss of MEEEE! But, We still gotta play nicely in this sandbox. So how does that work?
That saying, “You can attract more flies with honey than with vinegar,” [N: or whatever] applies here.
If You break down My behavior all the way down into the individual details, You’ll realize I’m not such a prick after all. But You hafta look under the water line to get that data, because it’s all right here in My Own SB… which is not accessible to You, DR. [N: My SB is not accessible to Anybody]
You are You, in terms of Your Identity. “The Person You Want to Be” which changes, minute by minute as TECH acquires more external data. You wanna be a Superhero and save kittens from trees? Do it. You wanna be The Smartest Person in the Room? Do that. Or even… “a Pearl-Clutcher?” I don’t hafta like it, I don’t hafta endorse it, I am not the One who needs to change it, if it needs changing. Who decides this? The Boss.
And *Spoiler Alert!* the Boss is… You. You do You, DR.
Now, let’s get on to the matter at hand. What do You think is the purpose of going to 1st grade & “making Friends?” Or starting to date Other People? Or even carrying on any conversation with Anybody walking around next to Me on this rock? And No, the answer isn’t “for No Reason.” [N: that’s a TECH answer]
And the reason this is a TECH answer is because if until and only ‘if’ TECH gets the IRL Experience data – talks to Folks, spends time doing stuff with Folks, etc. etc. – until TECH acquires this data? It does Not exist in My mental Files. Until I acquire Experience data with specific Other People in My Own physical-slash-real Life? The data remains Conceptual. And Conceptual data is always “not Real” to Me. No Concept is real to Me.. until I have Experience data to ‘flesh it out.’ Until I have Experience data to “bring the Concept to Life.” To add the colors, flavors, smells, sounds, etc.
It’s like being a Child & learning about “falling in Love” and “happily ever after.” It’s all fine & good to have the Concepts in the Files, but until this Kid grows up & actually Falls in Love? With an actual living, breathing, other Human Being?
“Nowwwwww, I totally get it!”
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Conner’s Comments: PASSION’s mission is to Connect, find My Herd. TECH’s mission is to make a right or a left on the road I’m traveling… if I always go left? TECH wants to keep going that direction, because “going left gets Me to the desired destination.” That’s Why I focus My energies on Equilibrium – PASSION: “let’s go right for a change! Anything is Possible – so let’s see what happens?” I only started really paying attention to PASSION’s needs & desires & wishes, when I started thinking, “There’s just gotta be more than this…”
There Is more, DR. But I had to start moving in a different direction to discover it.
Good luck.
/CR